1 Timothy 2:9 says a woman should dress modestly. What exactly does this mean as it also talks about not wearing jewelry and such. Here is my take on modesty.
so my daughter is in both dance and cheer. She’s 5 and she chooses her outfits for classes. Her preference are sports bra tops and booty shorts. Why do I allow it when most people call me a prude? It’s her freedom of choice.
When she was 3 and wanted blue hair I let her get blue high lights. She changed highlights from blue to pink to black before deciding she had enough and wanted normal hair. Took 2 years but she got there. Why did she stop? She hated washing her hair in cold water. She learned that if she had cool hair she would pay the price of cold water. So she gave up cool hair.
Clothes, she doesn’t walk around town wearing sports bras. She has a bikini. She requested it, wore it a few times before realizing it’s not all that great. So now we stick with 1 piece swim wear or tankinis.
What about me? I’m the prude remember. Two kids out of wed lock one lives with me the other with his dad and I’m the prude? Yup that’s me. I’m the jerk that made my husband wait 5 years to have sex with him. Made him wait. Barely kiss him made him wait. Why? Because after my daughter it was hard. I watched my best friend intentionally get pregnant so her boyfriend she barely knew would marry her because he was hot and fun. She’s miserable some days, some days she’s happy but she taught me that sex isn’t worth happiness. So he waited.
I wear what I want, mostly tank tops, shorts, flip flops. Idk how to dress myself most of the time. I work at UPS remember it’s a warehouse of sorts and I am a prude. I don’t show much skin, I have tattoos and yet I am modest.
I’ve got friends who have never dated. They are more into God. I respect them. I have friends who have dated but changed their course and now haven’t dated in almost as many years. They are amazing. I tried, I quit looking and I got a husband. He may be more persistent idk.
What is modesty? I don’t know that you can define that. It’s more what is modest for you? And why are women always to blame for being unmodest?
Men: they get away with anything. Take for example where I work. A woman comes in and strips to her bra and everyone loses their minds. Either the guys think she’s hot, the girls get offended and she puts clothes back on. A guy comes in has a shirt on that’s been cut from arm pits to stomach. You know the one, it’s similar to a singlet they wear for wrestling. You can see man boobs, chest, all but some small strip in the center. Not to mention his pants won’t stay on so your looking at his underwear. A woman shows her bra and underwear and people go crazy!
Why is there a difference? Women can lust after a man. They can think impure thoughts. A man can lust after a woman and have impure thoughts but when it comes down to it, a woman is the one who has to dress modestly.
Remember how I said my daughter is in dance and cheer? Take Michael flatly for example. He was HOT hot. Always did Irish dancing with her shirt wide open or completely off. Showing his abs for every woman to gush over. The Irish women however, short skirts or dresses but completely covered. Not ok for them to show off their body most of the time. But totally ok for the man.
What is modesty to me? That’s easy, every human should think about what they wear. Every human should care more about themselves. Sad truth is, when people say they care or don’t care usually it’s the opposite.
Dress modestly, act modestly, but seriously God forgives those who seek it. Don’t forget to live every day to the fullest.